At some point in my adult life, way after I had kids I realized that I needed to parent myself. No one was going to come into my room and open the curtains, no one was coming to motivate me to workout, or not to eat the cupcake. No one was going to tell me “great job!”. No one is coming! That terrified me, not because I didn’t have the skills or resources to parent myself, but because it felt like no one cared.
the truth is, they all care! My parents, my in laws, my husband and my friends. But the reality is, I’m not accountable to them to live my best life. I’m not devaluing a support system. In fact, my community of warrior moms, religious soul sisters, health and wellness peeps and close confidants including family are the shoulders I stand on. But the realization that if it’s got to be it’s up to me, the realization that I’m worthy, the realization that I’m enough and the realization that I can awaken my full potential is a game changer. There are some roads you have to travel alone.
At some point those of us blessed with good health, family, career accomplishments and accolades have suffered from imposter syndrome. The paradox of the imposter syndrome phenomenon is that those who suffer from it are typically high-achieving individuals by all objective measures. I wonder how those internal noises manifest for you you? For me I'm almost certain my internal dialogue was "Who do you think you are?". No one has said it me directly, but I felt it at different points in my life from the eyes of others. And thenthe worst is when you actually start to ask the question yourself.
I've come to realize a few things in the last year of the Pandemic.
No one is coming to help you.
You have every resource you need to manage your situation.
If you want something you've never had, you have to become someone you've never been.
BYOH (Bring your own Hustle) No one is going to pump you up, that's on you.
You are worthy of greatness.
Protect your peace ferociously
We can focus on everything that went horribly, disastrously and categorically wrong in the world. Or we can ask the question taught by Victor Frankl psychologist and holocaust survivor. In one of his more famous quotes he says, " It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us. We needed to stop asking about the meaning of life, and instead to think of ourselves as those who were being questioned by life—daily and hourly."
Our world has changed, and a part of us has as well. We can see the world as filled with problems, or filled with opportunities. We can look at the world as limited, or ourselves as limitless. No one is coming to save you, and while that may fear some of you, for others this will ignite an inner spark that was there all along. You have everything you need to live this life, and you can become your own best coach, motivator, confident, best friend and educator. You have an abundance of internal power that just needs unlocking. No one is coming shouldn't scare you, but empower you. You get to take responsibility for one of the most precious creatures on this earth. G-d helps those who help themselves. So while we all seek a divine resolution to our problems, we need to be reminded that it started with you all along. So next time you venture out into the world, bring your own hustle, and a side of prayer!
